DEAR DEIDRE: EVERYONE expects me to be thrilled about being pregnant – but I had a late miscarriage six months ago and am still grieving.

This is all too soon for me. I’m scared to tell my partner and my family how I feel, as they are so positive.

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I work in a dementia care home and some of the patients lash out. My work is stressful.

I enjoy my job but can’t help thinking it didn’t help with my last pregnancy, especially as I’m on my feet all day and lifting.

Nobody has asked if I’m OK. I feel so low. I’ve had a midwife appointment but am thinking of a termination. I’m 25. My partner is 27.

DEIDRE SAYS:Losing a wanted pregnancy is always sad and you need urgent help to ease your grief.

With more support, you may yet find joy in this pregnancy. If you are still grieving, it may be too soon. But would a termination compound your sadness?

Tell your family you’re struggling, and contact the Miscarriage Association (, 01924 200 799).

If you do continue with your pregnancy, talk to your manager about changing your role so you can be safe at work. You can check your rights through Acas (, 0300 123 1100).

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